Personal dilemma

By Alvin J. Alexander, devdaily.com

These days I'm faced with a personal dilemma. Okay, a big personal dilemma. Without giving away too many details, it goes a little like this:

There's something in life I've always thought I wanted, and I recently learned it's possible to get what I want. But there's a catch: In order for me to get what I want, other people -- friends -- would have to be hurt (emotionally, not physically). Beyond that, because of a few complications, there can't really be 100% "happiness" from doing this. And finally, there's no going half-way on this: once I make the decision there's not really any turning back.

It's hard to describe this dilemma while also being vague, so I can only guess what you (the reader) might be thinking at this moment. That being stated, here are the problems as I see them:

  1. First, there's this thing that I always thought I wanted, and now that it appears I can have it, the question becomes "Do I really want this, or has it just been a fantasy?"
  2. Second, the complications are really much more than I can write here, so there's this question of whether the complications would really outweigh everything else.
  3. Finally, if I decide that I really do want to make this happen, is my happiness more important than the people that would be hurt?

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